Our Philosophy


The number one predictor of divorce is not the presence of conflict. All married people experience conflict. The primary harbinger of difficulty and disunion is the avoidance of conflict. Research shows that the greatest difference between couples who make it and those who don’t is that those who make it have the tools to deal with conflict. Coaching is an interactive process that helps couples develop skills significant for marital conflict resolution, clear communication and producing more satisfying results. Coaching is partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their potential as a couple. The energy of the process is found in the coach’s ability to formulate powerful questions.

Coaches are trained to listen, to observe and to customize their approach to individual couples’ needs. Coaching allows the coach to spend the time needed with a couple to genuinely hear and guide them to resources and tools that will make a difference, as soon as possible. Between Two Trees Coaching can be done in person or online; in some cases, weekend focused retreats help jumpstart the process.


Our Background

With over thirty years as Marriage and Family Educators and Pastoral Counselors, Curt and Rhonda Hamner offer wise, biblical and practical relationship coaching. Professionally trained in a unique set of leadership skills as coaches, Curt and Rhonda help you identify important goals and priorities, guiding you as you strategize how to reach them and overcome obstacles that crop up along the way. Experienced in years of pastoral care, as pastors, they help address the emotional and spiritual dynamics of your relationship.

Certified and practicing together as a couple, Curt and Rhonda can guide you to tools and disciplines that will move you in new directions in your communication. As skilled listeners, the Hamners provide insight, direction and practical tools to grow your relationship to new levels of passion, commitment and intimacy. Whether you are experiencing particular challenges or just trying to strengthen a growing marriage, call for more information or to make an appointment.



The Between Two Trees Advisory Board

Jeff and Lisa Bradbury – Fullerton, CA

Steve and Judy Guy – Carlsbad, CA

Jeff and Jenny Mattesich – Pasadena, CA

Al and Elayne Lewis – Fulerton, CA





Partnership and collaboration are central to marriage and a high value to the ministry of Between Two Trees. Instead of running alone, we prefer to partner with couples and communities to see the best of what God has for Marriage. 

You can find our primary partners at the initiatives page.


Our operational partner is The Master’s Program/Priority Living our non-profit status is filed under Priority Living as well as a number of significant ministries we share. 

The DreamMaster Retreat is a tool developed by Bob and Cheri Shank who founded The Master’s Program and graciously passed it on to us!